Craig Metz, M.S.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Taking Responsibility For Our Feelings

Posted by on May 16, 2016 in Craig's Blog | 0 comments

Taking ResponsibilityWho is Responsible for Our Feelings?

Let me tell you about a difficult lesson that took me a long time to learn. I sometimes get overwhelmed in large social situations. One way I used to deal with this was to lean on whoever I was dating to help me by either spending one-on-one time with me or leaving with me. Well, as these things go, we sometimes get what we need in life (even if it is not what we want) and I ended up dating a women who did not fully ... Read More

The Life Spark

Posted by on Jan 14, 2016 in Craig's Blog | 0 comments

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Sometimes clients come to me for therapy saying that they are bored. They might say that they are depressed, anxious, dissatisfied or despairing. They see these as problems that need to be solved. I see them a little differently; I see hope. When someone feels boredom, it lets me know that they can tell when things are not working, that there is some vitality missing. Boredom, dissatisfaction, despair – feeling these ... Read More

The Practice of Mindfulness

Posted by on Feb 3, 2013 in Craig's Blog | 0 comments

Mindfulness

Between the stimulus and the response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Viktor Frankl

Possibilities

Think of the possibilities if you were able to create just a little space between something happening and responding to it. What if you could act from your deepest sense of integrity and not only from old habits, conditioning and socialization? How ... Read More

Don’t Choke! – Dealing with Fear (Part II), Tips for Conquering Your Fear

Posted by on Nov 24, 2012 in Craig's Blog | 0 comments

Part I of this piece on fear (click here to read it) ended with the conclusion that one of the best ways to conquer fear is to address it head on. Most of us already know this, but it is not always so easy. Remember, every fear you conquer means a larger life for you with greater possibilities. It is worth the effort to move past difficult fears. Here is a list of suggestions that might make it more likely that you will take on the task of confronting your fears and that you will conquer them when you do:

1) Confront your fears when they are small.

The neural ... Read More

Don’t Choke! – Dealing with Fear (part 1 of 2)

Posted by on Oct 27, 2012 in Craig's Blog | 0 comments

(Note: Fear is a big topic and this two-part article is only addressing one aspect of it. More will come.)

Our Relationship with Fear

Having a good relationship with our fear is one of the most important things we can do because it is an elemental part of being human just like joy or sadness. We can receive useful information from our fear response (like “Watch out for that cliff edge!”), but then it so often gets if the way of what we want to do (for example, making us tense on the cliff edge so we are less agile). Often, the very places we need to go in our lives are the places where we ... Read More